hey garrett
my wife and i were in cabarete july/august i weigh 220 lbs and was flying my 14m Eclipse thruster 80%of the time and a 12 meter thruster the other 20%. The wind was about 18-20 knts (guessing), the weird thing is that the wind there feels alot stronger than it really is. I.e. it feels like its really strong but when you actually go out there's less power than expected! -- might be related to the density of the air. I rented a board (Caution Hustla 145/best surfboard) from extreme/kite lounge cuz it was the same price as shipping my board.
we stayed at extreme hotel (managed by Robbie a fellow canuck!
), probably not the best place for 2 girls under 2 yrs old (but great if you don't have kids/high maintenance girlfriend/wife). To the right of extreme (looking at the beach) there are a bunch of hotels that seemed "higher end" than extreme i.e. kite club/agualina/ these guys were about a 5 min. walk
http://www.cabaretevillas.com/ and the places seemed really nice.
It's nice to be at kite beach cuz thats where all the best kiteboarding is ... but it may be boring and a pain getting into town via motoconcho (a bit dangerous with toddlers) or taxi (expensive) for non-kiteboarders.
have fun ... the wind gets a bit weaker in the winter months but apparently the waves at the reef get alot bigger!
andrew