soul19 wrote:Or are you making decisions for them from your comfy western life of priviledge?
Isn't it the same position that you are in that allows you to indulge in your sexual lifestyle? Isn't it your western financial status that allows you the access to the underpriveldged and to find the things that you desire?
I'm not making decisions for them. And certainly not from another universe.
Maybe you have a different idea of what I enjoy.
I am not interested in cruising sex markets or $20 back alley sex.
I find that when I travel that I like to meet locals, and date local women. I have NO intention of courting them with an honest (or typically dishonest) stated intention of developing a long term relationship, moving there or bringing them home or eventually marrying them.
I want a casual and hopefully sexual relationship with them while on vacation.
This in itself is a HUGE problem for a lot of people who will tut-tut
at such hedonistic approaches to life. After all, GOD says sex only for procreation etc.
So why not be generous in direct financial terms (cash) in exchange for the lack of promise of other intangibles?
I think a
soul19 wrote:You paint a picture that is so flawed and love to throw stats up about the snares of marriage and it's failure ....Just for the record... I am happily married and I may be on my soapbox preaching but I have never needed nor do I have to pay for sex. There is always something special to be found in loving someone unconditionally and the joy when they love you back.
Dude... I am really really happy for you!!! Northern Ontario can be a lonely place to spend long dark winters alone. And the dentally challenged Nakina natives are not a pleasant alternative! So make sure you keep that Timmins Dinner Jacket pressed and bring the Missus down to the Legion in The Soo once in a while to keep her happy!
But remember this conversation if your wife's love ever evolves from unconditional to "I'm getting a divorce lawyer and you are NEVER seeing the kids again"
when she meets some fancy guy from the big city of Sudbury . 50% chance it happens.
the next one of your friends life is turned over forever through divorce.
soul19 wrote:but reject the facts that you are contributing to a much bigger problem. My favorite part is that you hide behind a user name that you created just for this thread as you are fearful not to bring any of this into your "real life".
James (my real name)
Mock away my little friend but in all reality I feel sorry for you and can only imagine how truely lonely you are but you probably have some stats to prove me wrong!!!
No stats. Just living a life of a considered life of self indulgence!