awesome advice everyone, thank you.
had an epic 2.5hr session this morning and made a point to practice unhooking over and over for about 30min of the sesh.
Rode towards kite not edging, unhooked, edged again, tried to load and pop, ride back towards kite and hook in again! had a lot of crashes but towards the end i managed one decent little air unhooked! landed hooked back in and rode away, stoked!
no raley yet but definitely feeling better about the whole thing, and confident i will get it soon.